Getting a four year old with weird anxieties dressed in the morning can be quite the circus. It's odd too that a person who was so reluctant to get into their pajamas the night before would be such a poop about taking them off in the morning. Kids.
Finally putting my foot down this morning over her choice of dressing like it's Fall, when really it's like tropical jungle weather outside now, meant that I got to endure a screaming anxiety temper tantrum and give lots of comfort and snuggles before we could move on with our morning. When it was all said and done I surveyed all the things that Clover refuses to wear. Then I scooped them up and documented some - not all - of her rejects.
These are just some of the things I've made for my kid that she won't wear - not including any storebought items she totally rejects, or is just reluctant to put on, or some of the things that have been passed down to Violet or the thrift store....surely I can't be the only mom with a picky wearer:
Banyan stencil tee. Sailboat skirt. She has an irrational fear of tee shirts with short sleeves, so anything of that nature is OUT. She will run around naked or in a bathing suit all morning, and then declare that a short sleeved shirt makes her "cold".
The skirt is "not big and so beautiful" meaning it's no Disney princess piece, so it's not working.
Raglan tee and Star Wars skirt. Once again, the dreaded short sleeves. Plus it's not pink or purple. Lord knows why she won't wear the skirt. It's maxi and full with big pockets. It's a mystery.
Raglan tee, sailboat shorts, banyan shorts. She also has an irrational fear of shorts. Like hyperventilating when I suggest that it's shorts weather.
Easter Geranium dress, croquet dress. The flutter sleeves on the geranium give her the impression of short sleeves I think. If it had just been straps it might be acceptable but not "the most beautiful". And the croquet dress clearly has short sleeves.
Another croquet dress, which I think she finds more offensive than the floral one. And her easter dress from last year that still fits. She just won't wear it, but it doesn't really fit in with any of her bad clothes rules.
Self drafted knit bubble shorts, self drafted halter tunic, geranium tunic. Apparently the halter is just not beautiful because of the color, which I thought she would like because it's green like clover leaves. Just when you think you've nailed it....straps, fluttery drapey-ness....oh well. The shorts are...shorts. As for the geranium top, I suppose she thinks the cap sleeve is appalling. Plus the tunic length freaks her out because it's the shape of a dress, but the length of a shirt. No mutant clothes, mom.
I've also got a cute tank dress made for her out of some gorgeous gold polka dot knit that she has worn once under compulsion, and I haven't gotten any pictures of yet.
Kids have such strong preferences, and they seem to change without notice. You never know when the rules will switch up. Clover's jeans were gathering dust in a drawer for months and months and now they're all she wants to wear. She has also requested "14 dresses" like the Zephyr Figgy's dress that she loves to death, but only if I tie a string onto the straps at the back to cinch them up shorter.
Violet is going to be three soon, and three was the beginning of crazy with Clover. Here we go again!
That sounds exactly like my 3 and a half year old daughter. Getting her dressed in the morning is such a battle, and most days we end up leaving the house with her in something I would never choose! That's not the biggest problem, though..it's that she won't wear half the clothes she has. Recently we gave a bunch away, and I am now trying to figure out how to tackle this problem!
ReplyDeleteI have the same problem... with my 12 year old! She has always been "particular" with clothes. Now it's about self expression and being original... OI VEY! I feel for you, Tara!
ReplyDeleteMy almost 3 year old has a fear of all clothes in general. Right now she is naked playing the ipad on the lounge. She wasn't naked this morning, nor 5 minutes ago when I re-re-dressed her but she sure is now :o I suppose I should look at it in a bright kind of way, less clothes/less washing I guess but I'm getting a little over seeing her wee butt running around the house all day ( as I'm sure our post lady who comes to the door is all well :P)
ReplyDeleteI have a pile of these too. "Not so beautiful" is definitely Em's major complaint as well. My solution - sew for the boy or sew for myself. HA! TAKE THAT, PICKY GIRL!!
ReplyDeleteI remember escapades like this with my middle child and she's worn me down so baby #3 has a way easier go of it. including more naked time than the other two had put together. but it's nice to see that with some manipulation on my part (swiping all the "inappropriate" clothes and leaving what is tolerable (and not so tolerable) left she got by, because the rule was we couldn't go anywhere without her being dressed. and that was her weakness -going places. whether it was the park, a store or the library she had to abide one rule -have clothes on. she's now 7 and has a rocking style which includes wearing the dreaded color black (it was only pink before) and other things. so good luck, it will get better. she won't go to college naked. (unless nudest have colleges ;)
ReplyDeleteThis post is hilarious - and oh-so-true!! All our kids are like that to some degree . . . and it's so hard when our hands have carefully crafted the items they outright reject. If it's any comfort, I thought the outfits you showed were delightful!
ReplyDeleteThis is basically a line up of all my favorite things from your blog. Here's hoping little sister loves them! (if not, I have a baby girl...just sayin')
ReplyDeleteoh, man! yeah... well, brenna announced that "pants don't work for me" a while back, so those are out. also, she has put everything i made her over the last few months in her pajama drawer. turns out i only make "night time clothes" who knew? grrr
ReplyDeleteHahaha, I love this, and I'm so glad to read in the comments that so many people are in the same boat! My 4 yr old wont wear anything with an "up-line" ...that means a seam anywhere above her belly button. Only "down lines" allowed. And no "rough or heavy heavy fabric" ...which means the only things on the table are jersey and fleece. We pulled out her summer clothes from storage, which means lots of mommy made things... after looking through the box she told me, "You don't make me nice things." Thanks, kid :)
ReplyDeleteomg that is so many things you poor girl!!! Azy was like that when i first started sewing but eventually the ratio of handmades to store boughts were tipped in my favor so she came around. also, early on i started asking myself what would be fun for her. and that helped immensely!!! And azy gets eczema from scratching her arms when she doesn't have long sleeves so she gets paranoid about that issue too.... I think she's coming around now... and her arms are mysteriously still in tact!!!
ReplyDeleteSo sad about the cute clothes though, Tara! :-(
you are so not alone! our 4 year old is rejecting a good proportion of all the lovely clothes she was given for christmas and her birthday. so frustrating! trying to not fight about it. how do clothes hurt their feelings so?
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